“Just take two minutes” – Kim and Paul having a ball. 💛
This year, Paul and I – Vice President for Clubs Societies and Student Engagement and Vice President for Welfare and Equality, have spent the entire year doing everything that has to be done, and that doesn’t have to be done, together. 😂 We have somehow spent all of our time laughing and getting ourselves into sticky situations. We just have so much fun together; even when we’re beyond exhausted, there’s always something to laugh about. So, we thought it would be a nice way to end the year by writing a little Goodbye Blog Post. Of our adventures, our advice (based on the lessons we’ve learned, together, and part this year), and a little Goodbye message from us, your two 2/4 goofy, really trying our best, Maynooth Sabbats; (The Kids), Kim and Paul, having a ball! ❤️🏀
*For reference- Paul sat in the arm chair eating snacks and talked (shite…) and I typed. 😂 (This post will be a little longer than usual; it’s been a long year, we, no surprises, have a lot to say!)😂
I’ve spent all year completely, unintentionally cock blocking Paul because everyone thinks we’re going out. 🙅 Over the course of this year, we’ve semi- broken into the President and Registrar of the University’s Office dressed as elves to give them Christmas pressies. We’ve peed in cubicles beside each other in Gender Neutral bathrooms. We recreated the Teenage Dirtbag video and spent all year being slagged for it and; we’re officially named ‘Work Husband and Wife’ by Student Services. Katie and Leon (The Parents), spent all year trying to get us to do our emails and to use Google Calendar, and Paul and I spent all year trying and failing to listen to them. 😬😂 Most importantly, together, we have turned all the worst and hardest situations around by always keeping one another smiling. 💛 Together, Kim and Paul have absolutely had a ball! ⭐️
We have made so many new friends this year, been inspired by amazing people, and spent the last 12 months chatting shite to everybody we meet; making friends with everyone, everywhere we go .❤️ We have both learned so much about ourselves and about other people. We have both grown up a lot too, I think…or maybe just a little. 😂 We have lived by 5 Seconds of Bravery all year through and have, throughout our whirlwind of experiences this Sabbatical Year, managed to come up with a few, semi-sensible things to say… 😂😯
With that, here’s the four most important life lessons we’ve learned together this year. ✨
1) Facing your fears: 💪🏼 💪🏼 💪🏼
So, the first thing about facing your fears we’ve learned, is to figure out what they are. I knew mine to begin with: needles and public speaking. 💉 Paul made a list: extreme heights, being told ‘no’ and a few other bits and bobs along the way. 😳
The first step is to understand your fears and the second step is then to understand your ‘Stretch Zone.’ Here’s an example: Let’s take public speaking. Your biggest fear maybe to talk in front of a group of 100 people, your Stretch Zone could be to give a talk in front of 5 people; uncomfortable, but doable. 🎤
We’ve learned to take it all in baby steps! Once you conquer the first ‘Stretch Zone’, you move onto the second, and so on. 🐥👣💛
I’m petrified of needles. 🙅💉 During this year I was told I had to get a blood test. I begged Paul to come with me. He turned up the next morning despite telling me he wouldn’t be there because I hadn’t finished reading the book he’d told me to read. We went in and I got the needle without too much fuss. However, after the blood test, I felt faint, ‘a bit weasy and a little bit uneasy’, so, Paul had to step up to the mark and take a bag of my blood to the doctors in Maynooth Town while I had a rest and went to get a coffee. ☕️😂
Paul started taking Baby Steps towards conquering his fear of heights beginning with Roller Coasters. During the Summer, Paul and I went away to Ulster on a training weekend. One night we all went to a Fun Fair and Paul made the two of us go on all the scary rides. First, we went on “Barry’s Big Dipper”, much to our amusement because our USI Regional Officer is called Barry. Barry got a photo of us and himself and his Dipper. 🍆
Paul has just returned from a trip to Dubai where he jumped out of an Aeroplane and faced his fears head on. 💪🏼✈️
When I asked Paul to describe this experience in 2 sentences he said: It had to be one of the most nerve wrecking things ever but, one of the most exciting and rewarding things I’ve ever done. “Do the thing you fear the most and the death of fear is certain!” -Paul having a Ball. 🏀⭐️
The moral of the story here is: all it takes is FIVE SECONDS OF BRAVERY and Baby Steps.
2) Catch Flights not Feelings: ✈️ ✈️ ✈️
Firstly, you’ve got to ask yourself the question of ‘what is love?’ This is a personal definition because it means something different to everyone, but both of us agreed that love means always wanting the best for someone even if it means that the best for them isn’t you.
If you love someone you should support Them in doing Them. There is an element of risk and sacrifice that comes with every relationship, Romantic and Platonic, you just have to find the people, as cliché as it is, who are worth the risk and sacrifice. ❤️
This year one way or another, both of us have learned the importance of unapologetically prioritizing ourselves to accompany our roles which caused us to spend the majority of our time supporting others. WE, as individuals are the most important people in our own lives. 🙋🏽
The priority needs to lie with you. You need to follow your own dreams and goals first before you can even contemplate sacrificing anything for someone else. At the end of the day, the only one who will 100% be there for you is you!
Both Paul and I are very firm believers that there is growth in pain. Sure, love and heartbreak hurts, but as we will explain later, all the decisions that you’ve made have got you to this point. ❤️💔 Sometimes, you have to take the risk of getting hurt in order to live your life in the present and inevitably learn and grow. Like we already said, heartbreak and sadness passes and from this pain you can only grow stronger. Enjoy your time and learn the lessons and make sure you’re smiling along the way. 💛☺️
Lastly, know and understand your worth and never settle for anything less than what you deserve!! 💛
So, to Sum this nugget up, our advice is: Fuck it, life is short! Don’t waste time. Say the things you want to say. 5 Seconds!! If you like someone tell them, don’t be too scared to take a risk. Know your worth. What’s for you won’t pass you and lastly, don’t be a fool, wrap your tool! * (FREE CONDOMS IN THE SU!!) ❤️🐥
3) Be Yourself: 🌟 🌟 🌟
“As you stand in the office, holding your Work Wife’s SHAG Week order of Light Sabers/ vibrators, you begin to wonder about all the different life choices you’ve made up until this point.” –Paul having a Ball. 👀😯🍆💧
Never forget that all the decisions you’ve ever made have brought you to this point in your life… and have made you the person you are today. ⭐️🐥 You’re the only person like you in this world and you’ve got to own that! 🌍 The best people are the most genuine and often the weirdest because they don’t give a fuck about what people think of them and are unapologetically themselves and not trying to impress anyone or be anyone else. Stick to, love and be loved by and loyal to those people, always.
It’s okay to be selfish, just make sure that you’re doing what you love and are being true to yourself and who you are. ❤️
“Kim constantly wears too many patterns but as I never fail to remind her: ‘never too many flowers, Petal.’ ”- Paul having a Ball. 💐🌻🌸🌹🌼
“Always remember, if you can’t change something, embrace it… and that’s coming from the big eared fool holding his work wife’s tool!” – Paul having a Ball. 👀😯🍆💧
“Stay Positive, Smile Always.” – Kimbo. X 💛🌼🐥
4) Mental Wealth: 💚 💚 💚
“You see all these mother fuckers with money but…, they all broke…” –Paul having a Ball. 💲💲
No, in all seriousness, this point’s about fighting your demons and how important it is to master your own mind! While you work incredibly hard on your financial wealth, you also have to make sure to always work extra hard on your mental wealth. 💚
This means creating the person you want to be, facing your demons head on and turning them into motivators. Letting yourself run your own life, rather than it running you. ✨
No matter how dark and gloomy it gets, there is always light at the end of the tunnel; but the light isn’t going to find you, you have to go out and find it! ☀️💡☀️
Mastering your mental wealth and emotional intelligence comes only with work and practice and it is a long road. Always remember that your thoughts are neither good or bad- they’re just thoughts. It is up to you to master your mind, face your fears and learn the lessons from these intensive thoughts in a Non-Judgemental way, because you are trying your best. 💛
What that means is if something bad in your life has happened, use it to teach you, inspire you, better you and therefore, benefit you going forward. 🐥
*My, (Kimbo’s) Goodbye Message:
Dearest everyone who’s touched me this year, in one way or another; there’s so many of you! 💛 (Paul cried laughing when he read this line… 😕) To everyone who gave me cards, and presents and ducks. To all the people who gave me hugs. To all the people who encouraged me and inspired me. To all of you who made me smile. To my friends who believed in my ideas and kept me smiling on all the hard days. To the people I shared coffee/ tea and chats with. To all my adventure buddies over the course of my Welfare term. To the people who listened to me and congratulated me. To everyone in Maynooth Students’ Union (I love you all, especially). To all my students and my college pals and Gals. To everyone who helped me run for election. To Izzy and Ulty and the 26 gang. To my five best pals Adam, Alisha, Ellen, Cathal and Niamh. To Paul, Katie and Leon. To my mom. To dad and Sally, you two are worth a million billion stars! ⭐️ Thank you all for everything!!
To everyone who has encouraged me and believed in me this year in one way or another. It’s a year I will never forget. It has change my life. Thank you for allowing me the opportunity to help others to have both the Maynooth experience that I had and, for accepting, loving and encouraging Albert and I. All the kindness shown to me this year has taught me to have confidence in my abilities and to follow my dreams. Maynooth has been the best, most life- changing four years. Thank you for allowing me the space to be me. Thank you for teaching me that I am enough. Thank you for giving me the confidence to not only value my strength, but also for giving me the confidence to fight for what I believe in. ❤️
I will be forever grateful to everyone who believed in me and elected me as Vice President for Welfare and Equality 18/19. I’ll be honoured for the rest of my life, I think. From the bottom of my heart, thank you and thank you again.
Maynooth, look after my Paul for me… I know Katie is going to be absolutely FINE 👑, but sometimes Paul needs a little more…advice… 💛
Best of luck to next year’s team.
For the last time as your goofy VP,
Kimbo, Albert and the ducks. X 💛🐥
*Pauly Ken’s Goodbye message:
So this is my little goodbye to all the people I have met over my time in college. While I know that I’m not leaving just yet I do want to say goodbye to all the people who are moving on to the next chapter of their lives. I’d like to thank all of you. I’d like to thank those that I’m still close with and those who I have drifted apart over the years for whatever reason. I just want to say how incredibly grateful I am for you all because you have made me the person I am today.
To those I haven’t spoken to in a while, I hope you are all doing well. I hope that you are chasing your dreams and are becoming the best version of yourselves.
To the current SU team. You have been nothing short of amazing this year. I don’t think you all understand how much of an impact you have all had on so many people and I don’t think you will ever know how much you have changed peoples lives. Kim and Leon, I had the pleasure of working with you both and I’m excited to see where you go in the future. I know that whatever you go on to do you will find a way to make it happen.
To Katie, I’m excited to start this new year with you. I’ve seen first-hand the passion you have and how much you care about the students. I know you will do great this year!
I’d like you all to remember: you don’t have to change the world, you just have to change someone’s world! The last piece of advice I can give you all is: No matter what has happened; If you’ve fallen out with someone or you’ve had a bad break up. Forgive them. I’m not delirious with this advice and I know it’s easier said than done, but I urge you to forgive them. I’m not saying take them back into your life or forget about what they have done to you. Somethings you just can’t get over, but be selfish and forgive them. Forgive them because it’s time to put yourself first, no matter how bad the situation was be grateful because you’re stronger (even if you don’t know it yet) then you were before. Learn for the past and move forward in becoming the strongest version of yourself.
Peace Out, Homies,